She was struck that others were so struck when she explained that her vows had been undone. “We don’t believe in them anymore,” she’d explain, and then in the face of their panic, she’d quickly add: “But we’re still monogamous and passionate about our partnership”
No one seemed to understand, and so she wasn’t sure. Was she really willing to live without vows? Without promises?
She was, only because she had seen so many of those promises broken in marriages all around her.
There was no such thing as solid ground when it came to relationship. Soft ground was needed. More like water, than rock. Yielding. Flowing.
If she had to create a new recipe for marriage, it might look like this…