(Author’s note: Inspired by the book, Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel, I’ve dug up some of my older writing on sexuality, including this passionate rant that came about after the birth of my first child.)
this society has SEXUALLY CASTRATED WOMEN!
i have always wanted to be POWERFUL in the expression of my sexuality
but have been taught otherwise
MEN are the powerful ones
the pleasure of the penis
men have the strip clubs
the dirty jokes
the illicit magazines
THEY own sex
THEY define it
women are regulated to love
to the sensitive
all the movies show it
but at the same time women are expected to be raucous and lusty
to further satisy the man
MEN’s cycles dictate
they are empowered by their brothers, friends, fathers;
while we are quietED, reMINDED, REPRIMANDED!
where is OUR sexuality in this culture?
WHEN does OUR pleasure matter?
by kelly salasin, december 29, 1996