Love’s Debris

And though it’s stormy out,

I feel safe within the arms

of love’s…


Indigo Girls, Love’s Recovery

Kelly Salasin

Weeks ago I had a transcendent dream.  My life was a sand garden filled with debris that was being raked away by a beachcomber, exposing sparkling jewels of all shape and color.

This is one of those unique metaphors that seems to speak to every aspect of my life.  My mid-life marriage is no exception.

If you’ve been following our journey, you know that my husband and I are on a quest to heighten our experience of intimacy and love.  It’s not been easy leaving the familiarity of marital comfort behind.

In her book, Enchanted Love, Marianne Williamson has this to say about growth in a relationship:

Growth is a detox process, as our weakest, darkest places are sucked up to the surface in order to be released.  Often, upon seeing the weakness in each other, we have the tendency to go “Yuck!” and walk away on some level.

In our desire for greater intimacy, Casey and I have exposed more debris than we’ve ever realized was there.   We are both tempted to turn away– or at least turn back to what we knew before.

But despite the debris from this storm of change,  we are comforted by each other’s willingness to make the journey of recovering the precious jewels of our love.


Click below for previous posts on our journey of intimacy:

The Kiss of Love

82 Pages till Sex

Baba Yaga Love

Sex (from the Empty Nest Diary)

On 19 Years of Marriage


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